Friendship and Love
Friendship is still in our world TODAY?
A first glance might make us fear that it is disappeared.
The business is dominated by the idea of`market, economy and
interest in politics, the race for power.In both cases,
there is little room for honesty in personal relationship.
In addition, the modern world leads us to continual change.
Leaving his neighborhood and his work, it`s eventually to
forget his old friends. We promise to meet again, but
new interests,new needs develop in us, we meet new people.
Who could consider taking an instance of a time to stop and turning
eyes to his past? In Italy, the term of friendship has
a negative connotation that is almost synonymous with
privilege or help.To find a job,to be admitted at the hospital,
obtaining housing, it is essential to play his relationship;
due process is unnecessary, the way that Administrations Committee
does not lead to any rule.You can pass in front of everyone,
It`s of escape rule .This is a concept and eventually
it covers a set of personal values, privileges, large or small,
in a social system that should instead, to be fair, follows rules
of interest based on the general and merit.The modern
world is characterized by changing roles.The friendship
is perceived as an anarchic feeling or as a source of injustice.
In love, leaving the beloved person requires superhuman effort.
I compared the friendship and the feeling with which
it is so often confused: the shock of love(Choc amoureux).Note that
these are two very different phenomenons even opposites.
Love is a fruit, an event that has a beginning,a precise beginning.
It has an origin,a shock, a revelation.The friendship is
not born of a sudden revelation, it becomes itself
through successive meetings .Note that the love is never
very true or less true,it can not be quantified: much,so much,rather or
a little.If I say “I’m in love”, I have just told it.Love follows
the law of all or nothing when the friendship ,however in
various forms, occurs to some different degrees .It oscillates
from minimum to a maximum of perfection.It may be small,
barely a stammer, and can be immense. love, it is full on
its apparition.Friendship is going intensifying.If one speaks
of friendship, He has leading ideas of` utopia.Continue to
analyze Love .Love is passion.Passion in German means
Leidenschaft.Leiden is suffering.The passion indeed,that is always
mixed with Love is suffering.Love is an ecstasy,but also a torment.
Friendship,however,is afraid of suffering.Friendship avoids all that it can.
Friends want to be together for being happy.If they fail,
they leave and put a distance between them. Another fundamental
difference is between the love and friendship :
I fall in love with someone that will not make me my love,
I will continue to be provided as lover(amoureux).Love is not
necessarily a mutual feeling and one of her characters
is to be loved .On the contrary,I apparently it still requires
reciprocity.I can not be `the friend of any man who is not.
Leaving my love requires a superhuman effort.to free oneself from
unshared love,we must do violence and hate other.In the same
time, hating the beloved is seen as the most atrocious suffering ..
In friendship, there is no room for hatred.If I come to hate
a friend, I am no longer his friend ,so the friendship is broken.
In love, the beloved one is transfiguré.Love itself is
more spontaneous, even double.Love should
be very concrete in front of us and a divinity which unites
in itself all possible world, what we project into it.
Love is the revelation of a transcendence.Lover’s prayer
to be loved is a cry of despair.A friend is not transfiguré.
From my friend, I am waiting that he may share the picture
that I have of myself,at least to an reasonable extent .However
he must not judge me too favorably if I could believe
in the flattery of his part.But if his description is too
negative or too far from my thought , I do not make right,
and therefore contradicts a fundamental requirement of
friendship to that which two friends must have their similar own images.
They should not have the same reciprocal view,otherwise they
have nothing to discover each another,but without excessive dissonance
.Between a friend and I, I cannot think of hatred
Anyone can misunderstand me,except him.If a friend
misunderstands me, it’s all over between us.We can continue
to love someone without knowing if she loved us back,
or deceived if he was pleasant or not, if his soul was
generous and petty.Seeking to know is precisely a manifestation of the love
.. After many years, the love is still questions the same
way he always open daisy leaf by leaf.After the first moment
arises one question which will arise in permanently and
only the presence of to be loved who says” Yes “is a response.
What continues its presence and the response continues to
turn, and the question is constant, obsessive, anguishing.
Nobody can say, as requiring reason, “What it matter?
“This is the blind spot of the love that loves what will
always remain inaccessible because it has become an end to
a whole should be. This is also the misery of the love,
be nothing else that is questioning and could not stop it
when the other is indifferent or` hostile.That is
the injustice of the love that knows neither vice nor virtue,
and which rewards good nor punishes the bad.
Love is sublime and miserable, heroic and stupid.Just,
never what it isn’t the love that is the registry of
the court, it is friendship.In love, we torment ourselves
endlessly to tear the behavior of other.We ask with
anxiety that are the motives that determine his choice.That’s
the result of the terrible power that’s being loved has
on our needs .All our desires, all our happiness depends
on him and when we are unhappy, to destroy the causes of
our mischance.Love is by turns tender and resistance
to power that persists beyond our own will.Love, however,
admits no domination.Our friendship is the
product of our will, it ends when the will freely decides ….
In friendship, passion does not exceed.We are much
more demanding moral for our friends that towards others.
The shock in love is a fact, an event, it has its precise beginning,
its origin, a shock,a revelation..The friendship is
reversed, is not born of a `sudden revelation, it becomes
itself through meetings Estates and one’s go deeper approach
In friendship, two friends neither lose nor profit.
We should not be overwhelmed by their thanks .Its deception
or detect it in the open virtue of other, and value it.
A friend needs to know to be open, full of life, funny.
It should be boring or importunate.Too much generous and covering
us with gifts, it would create the need to make and would
create too heavy duties reconnaissance.Friendship should
always be fresh, light, even when it is heroic. In front
of death, friendship can say it’s like that.